You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy
Loving yourself means acknowledging that you are a divine being of light, that you are a unique expression of the divine mind, that you are precious and unrepeatable, and that you are incredible, powerful and deserve to be loved by the whole world and by yourself.
I LOVE MYSELF
Look in the mirror. Look at the reflection of this incredible being: a divine expression of unconditional love. This incredible being is YOU. Look in the mirror and say, “I am an amazing, unique being. I am loved by the whole world and this love is unconditional.”
Do you remember when you were a child? You were happy for no reason. You lived perfectly in the moment. You found magic in everything. Life was a joy. You didn’t judge yourself. You thought, know that you are perfect the way you are both physically and mentally.
When you love yourself, you accept yourself as you are at any moment – in all your humanity – with fears, weaknesses, desires, beliefs and aspirations that are all facets of who you are. You do not judge yourself or your actions as right or wrong, but accept every moment as an experience from which you will learn, thereby facing the consequences of your actions and decisions.
It is only by learning how to take care of your own emotional needs that you discover how to transmit this love to others. when you respect the integrity of your own thoughts and feelings, you are able to do the same for others.
Self-love is not so much a feeling as it is a lack of self-doubt and self-disapproval. It is about finding the right balance and feeling that you belong as a person. Respect, taking charge of your own life and feeling good are key values. Self-love means that your wellbeing matters to you unconditionally. Here are a few of the characteristics of self-loving people.
- They tend to treat themselves well.
- They see fun and enjoyment as a primary goal most of the time.
- They do not allow themselves to be mistreated by others.
- They are caring towards others – because it feels good to do so, not because they have to.
- They put themselves first. Even those they love are a “close second”.
- They find a thought that feels good and put it into practice.
Loving yourself is about treating yourself as you would treat someone who is very precious to you; someone you love so much that you hurt when they hurt, for whom you would move mountains just to see them well and happy.
ACTIVELY LOVING MYSELF
Ask yourself, if you were your own best friend, what gift would you give yourself right now that would make you happier and do you good? Of course, each one of us will give a different answer, but there are certain things that we all need in order to love ourselves:
Take time out to yourself – If you think you don’t have time for this, ask yourself whether you’d make time for your best friend if they were in need? Well, you are just as worthy. Book a massage or a facial, or take a stroll in your favorite park, whatever you feel like doing, so long as it’s regular quality time dedicated to you.
Get breathless – There is no getting away from it, exercise is crucial for good health and wellbeing. If you don’t do any, you are simply storing up problems. It doesn’t have to be a sport or the gym; but think “breathless”. What can you do that’s fun and makes you breathless? Dancing? Walking? Cycling? Doing any of these things for 20 minutes every other day would be a great start.
Rest and sleep – you may think sleep is for lazy, boring people and is just a waste of time? Quite the opposite! When you sleep, your body is busy repairing and healing itself and undoing any damage you may have caused it. Take sleep seriously.
Nourishment – Each time you eat, think of the food as nourishment first, mood enhancement second! Choose healthy food that nourishes you.
Light and air – If you live in a town or city, you’ve probably noticed how much more alive you feel when you can get away from it all and breathe fresh country, or sea, air. We need sunlight to help us produce vitamin D, which is important for bones and general wellbeing. So spend some time outside every day – you’ll sleep better too.
Fun, laughter and play – When was the last time you laughed so hard you almost cried? Or fooled around like a big kid? A good laugh loosens muscles, lowers blood pressure, relieves stress and strengthens your immune system. It feels good because when you laugh, blood is pumped around your heart and lungs, boosting your energy levels. So have some fun and laugh as much as you can!
Confront sources of stress – We all have things in our life that drain us of our energy, things we don’t want to deal with because doing so would mean stepping out of our comfort zone. It may be nothing more than a messy desk, but it could be something more emotionally charged, like a fend with a relative. Whatever it is, find a way to tackle it and energy you’ll release will make your life feel a whole lot better. Nurture, honor and love yourself – choose only those things that are good for you!
The relationship between you and yourself is extremely important as it provides the foundation upon which all your other relationships are built – helping to determine their quality, their depth and their character. In short, it is the working model of how you give and receive love.
The quantity and quality of your self-love is what fundamentally determines how successful your relationships with others will be. If what you seek is an honest, relationship based as love, then you must first learn to love, honor and to value yourself as the most wonderful and lovable being.
LOVE YOUR BODY
Sigmund Freud discovered that the body and psyche are inextricably linked. One of his most famous students, Carl jung, said, “In the same way that the conscious and unconscious are in constant interaction, the body and the mind are in constant interaction.” This statement, more than 5o year old, is affirmed by some of the world’s greatest minds. Researchers in this field, such as Wilhelm Reich, John Pierrakos, Fritz Pearls, Louise Hay, have all contributed greatly to our understanding of metaphysical science.
With each illness or disorder, your body is reminding you to love yourself. Through genuine self-love allow your heart to guide you to wellness and wholeness.
WAYS TO LOVE YOUR BODY
- Think of your body as the vehicle that transports you to your dreams. Honor it. Respect it. Fuel it.
- Create a list of all the things your body lets you do. Be thankful for it.
- Become aware of what your body can do each day. Remember it is the instrument of your life, not just an ornament.
- Walk with your head held high, supported by pride and confidence in yourself as a person.
- Count your blessing, not your blemishes.
- Be your body’s friend and supporter, not its enemy.
- Consider this: your skin naturally replenishes itself once a month, your stomach lining every five days, your liver every six weeks, and your skeleton every three months. Your body is extraordinary – be sure to respect and appreciate it.
- Every morning when you wake up, thank your body for resting and rejuvenating itself so you can enjoy the day.
- Every evening when you go to bed, tell your body how much you appreciate what it has allowed you to do throughout the day.
- Find a method of exercise that you enjoy and do it regularly. Don’t exercise to lose weight or to your body. Do it to make your body healthy and strong and because it make you feel good. Exercise for the three :Fun, Fitness, and Friendship.
- Put a sing on each of your mirrors saying, “I’m beautiful inside and out”.
- Choose to find the beauty in the world and in yourself.
- Eat when you are hungry. Rest when you are tired. Surround yourself with people who remind you of your inner strength and beauty.
You will see that when you love your body, your body loves you back. By taking care of yourself in as many ways as you can think of, your body will become a strong, healthy and beautiful vessel that will remain your best friend for life.
This is take From – Read me I am Magical
Thanking to ALINKA RUTKOWSKA
Written by: ARSHAD ANSARI