Your life is probably plenty difficult already. The reality is that you will have to deal with those difficulties already no matter what. One of the keys to winning is to not make things even harder for yourself, which is, unfortunately, what many people seem to do.
To help you with this reality, I want to point out the top five ways people make life harder for themselves so that you can avoid there pitfalls.
- 1 Life is More Difficult for Those Who Stop Growing and Learning
As you know, some people never make the intentional effort to grow. Some think they will grow automatically. Others don’t value growth and hope to progress in life without pursuing it. For such people, life is more difficult than it would be if they were dedicating themselves to continual improvement.
While some people experience grater difficulties in life because they refuse to grow, there are additional kinds of people who create difficulties for themselves: those who become satisfied with their gains and start to plateau.
Success can have a way of distorting our view of reality. It can make us think we are better than we really are. It can lure us into believing we have little left to learn. It can convince us that we should no longer expect to face and overcome failure. These are dangerous concepts to anyone who wants to keep improving.
How do we fight such ideas? By facing reality. Successful coaches understand the importance of honest and realistic evaluation. In football, that means spending time in the film room grading the performance of the team. My friend Jim Tressel, former coach at Ohio State, says, “Grade the plays the same, win or lose.” Why? Because there is a tendency to not be as objective grading plays when you win as when you lose. Winning causes people to relax and enjoy the spoils of victory. Do that and just may coast your way to failure.
“Grade the plays the same, win or lose.” –Jim Tressel
- 2 Life Is More Difficult for Those Who Don’t Think Effectively
One of the most striking things that separate people who are successful from those who aren’t it the way they think. I feel so strongly about this I wrote a book about it called How Successful People Think. People who get ahead think differently than those who don’t. They have reasons for doing what they do, and they are continually thinking about what they’re doing, why they’re doing it, and how they can improve.
That doesn’t mean that good thinkers always succeed. No, they make mistakes just like everyone else. But they don’t keep making the same mistakes repeatedly. And that makes a great difference in their lives. Frank Gaines, who was the mayor of Berkeley, California, from 1939 to 1943, explained,
It never bothers me for people to make a mistake if they had a reason for what they did. If they can tell me, “I thought this and reasoned so, reasonable thought process to get where they did, even if it didn’t turn out right, that’s OK. The ones you want to watch out for are those who can’t even tell you why they did what they did.
These ridiculous practices were cited as being used in business, but we can do such things in any area of our lives when we don’t use our heads. Life is filled with plenty of disappointments and heartaches without our adding to the problem.
- 3 Life is More Difficult for Those Who Don’t Face Reality
Perhaps the people who have the hardest time in life are the ones who refuse to face reality. Author and speaker Denis Waitley says, “Most people spend their entire lives on a fantasy island called ‘someday I’ll.’” In other words, they think, someday I’ll be rich. They don’t live in the world of reality.
“Most people spend their entire lives on a fantasy island called ‘someday I’ll.’” –Denis Waitley
Life is difficult. But here’s the good news: many of the things you desire to do in life are attainable—if you are willing to face reality, know your staring place, count the cost of your goal, and put in the work. Don’t let your real situation discourage you. Everyone who got where they are, started where they were.
- 4 Life is More difficult for Those Who Are Slow to Make Proper Adjustments
“Everyone has a plan until they are hit.” What did he mean by that? The stress of a difficult situation can make you forget your plan and if you don’t handle the situation well, you won’t be able to make adjustments. Yet that is exactly what you need to be able to do—make good adjustments.
While it’s true that acceptance of a problem does not conquer it, if you face reality you create a foundation making it possible for you to make proper adjustments. And that greatly increases your odds of success.
Advertising executive and friend Linda Kaplan Thaler has been very successful in helping companies brand and market their Products. She is the person who came up with the idea for the duck in the Aflac insurance commercials. She has worked on ads for many successful products, but she really loves to represent unsuccessful ones. She says, “I love working on a product that is ‘D-listed,’ meaning dead.” Why? The companies “are desperate so they will let me do anything.” Sadly, many people are unwilling to face reality and make adjustments until after something has died. If we want to be successful, we can’t wait that long.
- 5 Life Is More Difficult for Those Who Don’t Respond Correctly to Challenges
Facing reality, maintaining a confident sense of expectation, and performing at your best may not be easy, but it is possible. And it does make a huge difference in your life. It sets you up to learn, to grow, and to succeed.
“There is a sense of exhilaration that comes from facing head-on the hard truths and saying, ‘we will never give up. We will never capitulate. It might take a long time, but we will find a way to prevail.’” That’s a fantastic way of stating the correct response to challenges. You create opportunities by looking in the eye and performing, not looking away and pretending. If you want to learn, you must build your problem solving, you’re planning, and your performance on a solid foundation. Reality is the only thing that won’t crumble under the weight of those things.
This Article is Take from Sometime You Win Sometimes You Lose
Written by Arshad. A