Winning creates a positive cycle in our lives. When we win, we gain confidence. The more confidence we have, the more likely we are to take action when it’s needed. That inclination to move from knowing to acting often brings success.
However, losing can also create a cycle in our lives—a negative one. Losses, especially when they pile up, can lead to insecure, we doubt ourselves. It causes us to hesitate when making decisions. Even if we know what we should do, we are reluctant to do it. When such a gap is created and isn’t overcome, success becomes nearly impossible.
As I reflect on my losses and think about how they have affected me, I see that there have been times that they made me get stuck. I find that often occurs to others as well. Here are eleven traps that people tend to fall into:
The Mistake Trap: “I’m afraid of doing something wrong.” Losses hold us back!
The Fatigue Trap: “I’m tired today”. Losses wear us out.
The Comparison Trap: “Someone else is better qualified than I am.” Losses cause us to feel inferior to others.
The Timing Trap: “This isn’t the right time.” Losses make us hesitate.
The inspiration Trap: “I don’t feel like doing it right now.” Losses allow us to lose perspective.
The Rationalization Trap: “Maybe it’s really not that important.” Losses allow us to lose perspective.
The Perfection Trap: “There’s a best way to do it and I have to find it before I start.” Losses cause us to question ourselves.
The Expectation Trap: “I thought it would be easy, but it isn’t.” Losses highlight the difficulties.
The Fairness Trap: “I shouldn’t have to be the one to do this.” Losses cause us to ask, “why me?”
The Public Opinion Trap: “If I fail, what will others think?” Losses paralyze us.
The Self-Image Trap: “If I fail at this, it means I am a failure.” Losses negatively affect how we see ourselves.
All of these traps are caused by losses, and all of them create the gap between knowing and doing. If we want to be successful, we need to bridge that gap.
This Article is taken from Sometime you Win and Sometime you Learn
Written by Arshad. A