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We’ve always been a little nervous, culturally, about talking to ourselves. We usually associate it with insanity. But it was Plato who said that his definition of thinking was “the soul talking to itself.” If you really want to get your life worked out, there is no one better to talk to than yourself. No other person has as much information about your problems and no other person knows your skills and capabilities better. And there’s no one else who can do more for you than yourself.
A lot of people in the motivational and psychological professions recommend affirmations. You choose a sentence to say, such as, “Every day in every way I’m getting better and better,” and repeat it whether or not you think it’s true. While affirmations are a good first step to re-programming, I prefer conversations. Conversations work faster. The two most inspirational guidelines to productive self-conversational exercises are in Martin Seligman’s Learned Optimism and Nathaniel Branden’s the six Pillars of Self-Esteem.
Seligman offers ways to dispute your own pessimism and create the habit of optimistic thinking. Branden offers provocative sentence stems for you to complete. Rather than brainlessly parroting “I’m getting better and better” to myself, it makes a longer-lasting impression when I logically argue the case and win. With enough back-and-forth conversation, I can prove to myself that I am getting better. Proof beats the parrot every time. Its one thing to try to hypnotize myself through repetition of words to accept something as true, and it’s quite another to convince myself that it is true.
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Written by Arshad. A
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