What are the Active Relief Technique? by (Transforming the Mind)

What are the Active Relief Technique?

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One technique we have found profoundly effective is a process of consciously and intentionally releasing emotions as they arise – a technique developed by Lester Levinson. In essence, Levinson found that people have three usual ways of handing a feeling:

          The first way is to suppress the feeling. But suppressed feelings don’t go away they build up and faster inside, causing anxiety, tension, depression, and a host of stress-related problem. The repressed energy (or ‘charge’) these suppressed feelings create eventually drives you to behave in ways you don’t like or understand, and which you cannot control.

The second way is to express the feeling. By ‘blowing up’ or losing our tempers we relieve the pressure of the accumulated emotions. This can feel good because it puts the feeling into action – but it doesn’t get rid of the feeling, it simply relieves the pressure of it momentarily. Negative emotions may also be unpleasant for the person on the receiving end, which in turn causes more distress and guilt.

The third common way to cope with feelings is by attempting to avoid the issue by attending instead to distractions – by talking, watching TV, eating, smoking, drinking, taking drugs, having sex, etc. But despite our attempts to escape them, the feelings are still there – and still take their toll in the form of stress.

But there is another option for handling a feeling – you can let go of it: release it, discharge it. This is the healthiest way to handle a feeling that is consuming us. We’ve all had the experience of being in the midst of an emotional explosion and then suddenly beginning to laugh at ourselves, realizing how silly or inappropriate or useless our behavior is.

Typical feelings include the following:

Apathy and related feelings such as bored, careless, cold, cut-off, dead, defeated, depressed, discouraged, disillusioned, drained, forgetful, futile, hopeless, humorless, indecisive, indifferent, lazy, lost, negative, numb, overwhelmed, resigned, shocked, stuck, tired, worthless, etc.

Grief and related feeling such as abandoned, abused, accused, anguished, ashamed, betrayed, cheated, embarrassed, helpless, hurt, ignored, left out, longing, loss, melancholy, misunderstood, neglected, pity, poor me, regret, rejection, remorse, sad, unhappy.

Fear and related feelings such as anxious, apprehensive, cautions, cowardly, doubt, dread, foreboding, inhibited, insecure, nervous, panicky, scared, secretive, shaky, shy, skeptical, stage-fright, suspicious, tense, trapped, worried.

Compulsive feelings of anticipation, craving, demanding, desiring, devious, driven, envy, frustrated, greed, impatient, manipulative, lust, need, obsessed, pushy, ruthless, selfish; wanting desperately to have or to hurt; needing security, control, acceptance or approval; need to be right, to make another wrong.

Anger and related feeling such as aggressive, annoyed, argumentative, defiant, demanding, disgusted, fierce, frustrated, furious, hatred, impatience, jealous, mad, mean, outraged, rebellious, rigid, self-satisfied, snobbish, spoiled, superior, unforgiving, vain.

Courage and related feelings such as adventurous, alert, aware, compete, confident, creative, daring, decisive, eager, happy, independent, loving, motivated, open, positive, resourceful, self-sufficient, strong, supportive, vigorous.

Acceptance and related feelings such as balance, beauty, compassion, delight, empathy, friendly, gentle, joyful, loving, open, receptive, secure, understanding, wonder.

Peace and related feeling such as calm, centered, centered, complete, free, fulfilled, perfect, pure, quiet, serene, tranquil, whole.

{Note: some are positive feelings – it is important to release on even very good feelings such as peace, serenity, love and courage, for behind these feelings are hidden wants, desires of the Ego. When you release these good feelings you feel a physical and emotional release, just as when you release negative feelings. What lies behind the good feelings is something even better, an imperturbable serenity.}

Release Technique – Procedure

Step One: Focus. First think of some problem area in life – something that is of great urgency and concern. It may be a relationship with a loved one, a parent or child; it might be your job, health or fears. Or it might simply be the feeling that you are experiencing now.

Step Two: Identify your Feeling. Determine your feeling about the problem area, or the current feeling. What do you really feel? – open yourself up, become aware of your physical sensations – what word comes to mind? If necessary examine the above list as a reminder. Check on the list also to determine the purest form of the feeling – for example, if you perform your releasing operations on fear, rather than hesitance or worry, you will find the results are much more dramatic and powerful.

Step Three: Feel your Feeling. Let your feeling inhabit your entire body and mind. If the feeling is a grief feeling, you may break into tears; if it is anger, you may feel your blood begin to boil. That’s good – now is the time to feel the feeling.

Step Four: Individuate. Become aware of the difference between yourself, your ‘you’, and what that self is feeling. When the feeling is fully experienced and accepted, there will at some point be a clear sensation that your feeling is not you., so it would be possible to let go of the feeling.

If you do not feel that it is possible to let the feeling go, feel is some more. Sooner or later you will reach a point where you can truthfully answer: “Yes, I could let this feeling go”.

Step Five: Release. When will you let this feeling go? Sooner or later you will be able to answer: “I am willing to let this feeling go now”. So let the feeling go, to simply release it, if you haven’t done so spontaneously. It feels good to let it go all the built-up energy that has been held in the body is released. There is a sudden decrease in physical and nervous tension. You will feel more relaxed, calm, centered.

Step Six: Repeat. Do you still have any of the feeling? If some of it is still there then go through the procedure again. Often releasing is like a well – you release some and then more arises. Some of our pent-up emotions are so deep that they require a number of releases.

Once you’ve learned to release you’ll find that simply becoming aware of a feeling is often enough to trigger a natural, spontaneous release, and you will carry the ability over into your everyday life, resulting in a stress-free mind and body.

This Article is taken from Transforming the Mind

Written by Arshad. A

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